So today I was thinking about relationships and what’s “logical”. I’ve always told myself that once I got to a point that I was thinking about marriage I would always play it smart. Always have my own money, my own life, my own goals, my own aspirations. I would always keep myself guarded enough that if anything bad happened I would be okay.
As I considered this thought process, I realized that leaves no room for REAL love. What is love if you don’t trust that person with absolutely everything you have. No doubt it leaves you much more vulnerable for the rest of your life, but it also allows the experience of loving someone with no barriers. This is not to say that losing identity is the essence of love, but bringing those two identities together to form something even more beautiful.
Basically, what I’m trying to say is, I’m done being guarded and scared. I’m done being so worried about making sure I keep what is mine and give it to no one else. Maybe someday I will be completely devastated, but I can rejoice in the fact that I loved in a way only possible by giving myself wholly to someone else.
Ahhh yes. In the words of one of my favorite writers “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.” -C.S. Lewis
ReplyDeleteAnd that my dear, is why there is always great risk with great love.
ReplyDeleteGo for it. Do the reasoning part BEFORE you say yes to the commitment. It's OK to be sure the object of your love has CHARACTER, in fact you SHOULD do that. Once you feel certain he is true quality, the ONLY way it will really work is to plunge in and take that great risk.
Oh - - - and that commitment part? Once you plunge in, that commitment part is tres important.
ReplyDeletethanks for the comment! I love this post, and I agree with you completely :-)
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